A visit from Gary and Jane

Jane, Gary and Marlene

Gary is an old friend – I met him in 1996, a year before I met Jett. There is a connection there – I met both due to my membership in the local chapter of Parents Without Partners in Burlington MA. Gary was President when I was Treasurer. A year later Jett wandered into a PWP dance and… well… so began 23 years of love. Gary was dating a lovely woman named Barbara at that time who, sadly, succumbed to cancer before her time. Then Gary and I played in the same softball league in Massachusetts for several years, during which time he met and married Jane, also a lovely woman.

But we drifted apart. He stayed in Massachusetts while I went roaming about the country and eventually landed in Florida.

I take this trip down memory lane as a way of saying that he found me again! I got a call from him last week. Yes, he and Jane were still living in Massachusetts, but they were visiting Venice FL and maybe we could get together? Well, yes, Gary, we could.

And we did. Jane and Gary drove down from Venice, I cooked some tacos and we – Gary, Jane, Marlene and I – sat around for hours “catching up” as old people are wont to do. I gave them a walking tour of my resort (a nice, long walk that Rusty loved). And I took some photos.

It was truly wonderful reconnecting with an old friend.

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A few photos from Punta Gorda

Marlene and I continue to make almost weekly trips to Punta Gorda on Tuesday evening to listen to the free music (mediocre) and enjoy the water views (terrific). These are photos from our most recent visit.

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Island Gypsy Cafe

A few weeks ago Marlene and I traveled an hour to the Island Gypsy Cafe in Isles of Capri FL. This is an outdoor restaurant (under a canopy) on a marina close by the Gulf of Mexico. It is a beautiful setting. Good food, too. We met my friends Oren and Patty there for lunch. Patty is a friend from high school, so we go WAY back.

Oren and Patty have been “wintering” on Marco Island for years. This was probably my 4th or 5th visit with them down here in Florida. A lovely couple.

I had a mahi mahi sandwich which was terrific. I can’t recall what Marlene chose but I do recall dessert – a huge slice of the “famous” Island Gypsy carrot cake. It was $14 but was large enough for all of us.

One of the patrons waiting for a table was kind enough to get a photo of all four of us. Thank you, anonymous patron!

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2022 blog booklet

The 2022 blog booklet is now available online. I am on the fence about printing this as it is expensive to do so. If you want a hard copy, send me a request, please.

Creating this booklet was emotionally draining as it required me to revisit my tumultuous relationship with Ooma. I put her on the cover because she defined 2022 for me. The cover is always something important that occurred during the year, but not necessarily something happy. Jett’s funeral was the cover for 2020.

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Why I love living in Florida, reason #76

Feral peacocks, encountered recently while walking in the resort.

Feral peacocks
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My music education

Thanks largely to dating two women who love music, the past 12 months have been my most intense music education since the 60s. First and foremost is the Buckingham Blues Bar, an amazing (and amazingly inexpensive) bar/club that hosts some first-rate blues jams twice a week. Ooma introduced me to The Buck and I am beholden to her for that. But Marlene loves the place too and when brother-in-law Ray visited recently I had to take him there. He loved it too.

The jam is mostly some regular local musicians – all with their own bands who mostly play rock – who get together for some blues twice a week. And every now and then there are guest appearances by some touring musicians. On the night I took Ray there, Bobby Capps from 38 Special sat in on keyboards.

In addition to hosting great music, it also is home to a mule that loves beer.

Buckingham Blues Bar

Fort Myers also is home to MusicWalk, a once-a-month event in which downtown Fort Myers is cordoned off and music groups – some soloists but mostly bands of 5 or more pieces – set up and play for free. Dancing is encouraged and Marlene and I don’t need much encouragement. The event was cancelled due to the pandemic and then Hurricane Ian but is now back in full force. The event drew a HUGE crowd this month – probably more than 50,000 people.

Everyone dances at MusicWalk

Marlene has introduced me to many of the local night clubs, too. I have learned to appreciate the wide variety of talented musicians who call Southwest Florida home. One of the best is Deb and the Dynamics who have been playing for free in Cape Coral every Wednesday night. This draws a smaller crowd – maybe 1,000 – but the music is fine and everyone dances.

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Four months and still a mess

I visited Fort Myers Beach for the first time since Hurricane Ian, on the 4-month anniversary of the storm. I didn’t expect to see a fully-recovered city, but what I saw was pretty shocking. I guess the good news is that the main drag – Estero Boulevard – is passable. But many structures are completely gone – including the famous pier – and the structures that remain are still badly damaged. Even the high-rise structures that held up well in the wind were badly damaged by the storm surge. It will be years before the city fully recovers. Heartbreaking.

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“The Matarese Circle” by Robert Ludlum

Copyright 1979 by Robert Ludlum. Published Bantam Books Inc, New York.

I take a break from mysteries occasionally to read popular books in other genres.. This one falls into the “epic struggle of one man against a worldwide conspiracy” category. The protagonist is Brandon Scofield – also and somewhat inexplicably called “Bray”. He is an aging and increasingly more jaded senior spook who is drawn into a web of deceit and terror by his Russian counterpart, Vasili Taleniekov, the man who engineered the murder of Scofield’s wife 10 years before. Through a series of mysterious events both become pariahs in their own organizations and are forced to work together to thwart the unseen enemy.

The plot is fast-paced and global, running through not only Moscow and Washington but also Corsica, Leningrad, France, Germany, England and ending up in Boston. The body count climbs at each stop with a big bump at the end. The plot is deep, somewhat plausible and, of course, includes a beautiful young woman.

A good read, but pretty standard stuff for Ludlum. And the plot shows its age a bit – it was written before cell phones and wide use of the internet so phone booths and snail mail are used extensively. It doesn’t spoil the plot but is a constant reminder of how old the book is.

5 out of 10.

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Hand, Knee and Foot in my future

A few days ago I learned that Marlene plays Hand, Knee and Foot regularly. As you may recall, Jett and I played this game frequently (with frequent losses by me). I miss both Jett and the game. While Jett is gone forever, it appears that the game is not. I am looking forward to getting back into it.

Marlene also plays a mean game of gin rummy – another of Jett’s favorites. She taught me the “knock” version. Interesting game. So far we are pretty even. But I can tell you that Marlene takes her card games seriously. She will be a worthy adversary.

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Volunteer fail?

A man and his golf cart

I started a volunteer gig when I returned from Thanksgiving in Tillamook. One day a week, for four hours in the afternoon, I drive a golf cart at the Lee Health Regional Cancer Center in Ft Myers, shuttling people from their cars to their cancer or rehab treatments and back to their cars when they return. It is an easy job and a small way to repay the care that they gave Jett before her death.

In most cases these appointments at the RCC are not the highlight of the day for these people. Yet they are, for the most part, cheerful and pleasant. I try to be cheerful and pleasant myself on the theory that I can be a bright spot in an otherwise dark day.

So I was surprised when, last week, a woman in a car stopped to talk to me. I was sitting, idle, in the parking lot. I should mention that the parking lot that I troll is L-shaped. There is just one spot where I can view both the entrance and the entire lot: at the bend of the L. So I was sitting there, admittedly looking at my phone but still scanning for potential passengers. The woman pulled up in her car and the conversation went something like this:

Her: What are you doing?

Me (unsure what she was asking as it should have been obvious): Um… waiting.

Her: Why are you out here hiding? Why aren’t you doing your job?

Me: Are you complaining about the job I am doing? My VOLUNTEER job?

Her: This is the SECOND TIME. You are USELESS!

She then sped off. I had never seen this woman in my life, have no idea what she meant by “second time” and she was in a car, driving away from the entrance so it doesn’t seem likely that I had failed to give her a ride.

Anyway, it amazed me that she would take the time to berate a volunteer who was simply idle when there was nothing to do.

People.

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